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Love.

Its the title of the new Juliana Theory album, which I just so happen to be listening to presently. It is also the, at least, supposed, reason behind the recently passed holiday, on which I originally intended to make this post. This will probably not be what you are expecting. But then, I guess it might be. It depends on if you think like me or not… God help you if you do ;).

This is just something that I have been thinking of a lot recently. In light of stuff that has happened in the last year or more recently… It is something that doesn’t really always make a whole lot of sense.

Love is a strange thing, because there are so many different levels of it. For that reason, I think it would be nice if we had many different words for it, as there is in Greek and so forth. However, there is something that I like about them all being united in one word. Because ultimately they are all the same thing. The love you have for an acquaintance of yours comes from the same source as the love for your friend, or your brother or sister, or your best friend, or your girlfriend, or whatever. The difference is the extent and depth of that love, and the ultimate closeness that develops there. This, however, makes love a very tricky thing, because when I say love, you almost indefinately immediately think of love of the depth and closeness as that of a couple. Often times, we don’t even think of what we have for our friends as love. So why is it tricky? I’ll tell you.

I recently asked a good friend of mine what she thought the difference was between a person that she would become good friends with, but no more, and a person that she would date. If you don’t understand the question, I’m sorry. When I read it it doesn’t look like it makes a lot of sense, though I understand it.. but.. yeah. Umm.. anyway… basically, why become interested in one friend, and not another?

She came up with the only same reasons as I can come up with, though we both feel it is not a very solid answer, and there must be more to it. The basic reason was simply an attrativeness of that person. Not necessarily of the physical aspect. And then in the reverse you can eliminate people based on an unnattractiveness. So you have people that you like because of a good quality, or people you don’t because of a bad quality.

Now here is another thing which I don’t understand. People tend to eliminate their closest friends as potentials (for lack of a better term) for no reason other then because they are very close friends. Now, back to what I said earlier…. love comes from the same source regardless of depth. It is the same essence. Do you see what the problem here is? Those people which are most eligible are eliminated by mutual understanding.

If the natural scale of love goes from acquaintance to friend to lover, then it is only natural that it should progress in that fashion. And that includes not skipping any steps. One should become a close friend of a person before one dates them. It is unnatural to go from being casual friends to a romantic relationship.

The problem comes in because this is not the actual expectation of most people. Oh yeah, and I guess people may see it as a pretty big risk. Which may be true, but it’s probably not as big a risk as one might think. Sure, you may be disappointed… but the friendship will continue regardless.

I don’t know. It’s something I’ve been thinking about. And now it’s something for you to think about.

Oh yeah, and I did that thing I said I was going to do in the last post 😛 I don’t know if it’s a good thing or not yet.

“How are you feeling?
What are your reasons?
Do you feel love or a lack there of?
Love is a bond without reason
A cry for connection
A light in your eyes
Love is a reason for living, a reason for trying, a reason for life
Forget the feeling
Get all your of reasons
Life is love or the lack there of
Love is a bond without reason
A cry for connection
A light in your eyes
Love is a reason for living, a reason for trying, a reason to cry
Love is a bond without reason
A cry for connection
A light in your eye
Love is a reason for living, a reason for dieing,
Love is everything
Love is everything
Love is everything
How are you feeling?
Love is everything
What are your reasons?
Love is everything
How are you feeling?
Love is everything
Love is everything
Love is everything
Love is everything
Ohh love, you move me
Ohh love, you move me
Love, move in me, move me
Love means everything.”

-“Everything,” by The Juliana Theory