I think the thing I miss the most about being married (or I guess any serious romantic relationship really) is always having a person to talk to when you’re feeling shitty, for whatever reasons you have or don’t have. \u00a0I mean, obviously one could talk to close friends and the like, but it’s not really the same. \u00a0There isn’t a substitute for that sort of relationship. \u00a0Actually, it’s not the thing that I miss the most, it’s the only thing that I miss. \u00a0There are other reasons that I would like to be at that stage of life again, but they aren’t things that I “miss”.<\/p>\n
That said, today is one of those days that I find myself missing it. \u00a0Which is to say, I’m not quite feeling at my happiest. \u00a0I could write about things that relate to why, though I’m not sure I could quite explain why fully… \u00a0And I will write about those things, but I won’t write about them here, because they are things that I’m not really comfortable writing about on a public blog. \u00a0I’d probably be ok with a few of you reading, but not everyone who could potentially find their way here. \u00a0Ha, actually there’s a few people who could find their way here potentially that I’m not comfortable with reading the things I post here…<\/p>\n
So instead of talking about why, I will instead lament about the predicament I find myself in and reflect upon it. \u00a0I haven’t really had a proper girlfriend since then, though yes, I have gone on dates and the like. \u00a0I usually disqualify people pretty quickly. \u00a0I’m not sure whether or not I’m always being fair when I do so. \u00a0I want to have that sort of relationship again, but I think there is also some part of me that doesn’t. \u00a0I think I know the reason why…<\/p>\n
When I could talk to her about the sorts of things I have on my mind right now, it involved a great deal of trust and openness and sort of laying out everything bare. \u00a0Now, she had never betrayed my confidence in anything I told her (to my knowledge), but, in regard to how everything went down there was a pretty big sense of rejection there, and it’s impossible to separate those things. \u00a0While I certainly don’t consciously avoid finding that sort of relationship again, I think that’s the lasting damage… \u00a0that I don’t want to put that kind of trust in anyone again. \u00a0Or rather, despite wanting to, I won’t allow myself to because of what I feel it implies.<\/p>\n
And so instead on a night like this one, I have conflicting emotions. \u00a0On the one hand I wish I had that sort of relationship again, on the other hand I don’t. \u00a0On the one hand, I would like to be with a friend to maybe talk a little bit about this stuff with, on the other hand, I’m glad I’m sitting here alone. \u00a0On the one hand I’m posting this blog for you guys to read, on the other hand maybe I shouldn’t.<\/p>\n
But I am. \u00a0And now I’m going to go write down some things that I\u00a0can’t write here.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I think the thing I miss the most about being married (or I guess any serious romantic relationship really) is always having a person to talk to when you’re feeling shitty, for whatever reasons you have or don’t have. \u00a0I mean, obviously one could talk to close friends and the like, but it’s not really … Continue reading One of Those Posts<\/span>