Something that I have come to learn about myself is that I am very bad at letting go of people. \u00a0I’ve been fairly fortunate for most of my life in that I had a core group of friends that extended from middle school all the way through college… really, all the way to now for some of us… it’s just that core group became smaller in the years following college. \u00a0 \u00a0Still, I think that’s longer than most people retain that.<\/p>\n
Being a bit of a nerd, and having spent a large portion of my life on IRC (internet chat rooms for those of you less nerdy than myself), I, in addition to my real life friends, had internet friends. \u00a0And there’s even been some crossover from “internet friends” into the realm of “real life friends”, including the ultimate crossover, where I married one of them, which ended in spectacular failure, and just goes to prove the adage, “Don’t live where you internet, because the internet will fuck your shit up.” \u00a0That is totally an adage.<\/p>\n
Up until pretty recently in my life, there were several people who I was at one point really good friends with that I felt like I wanted to hang on to, and knew that if I didn’t try to do so then they were going to mostly fade from my life into the realm of “Facebook acquaintances”, which is at least one step below “regular acquaintances”. \u00a0So for a long time I would try to maintain those friendships, which were mostly ones fading due to distance. \u00a0In the event that you have never tried harder to maintain a relationship than the other person… \u00a0it’s pretty trying. \u00a0 \u00a0Sometimes it’s not part of your nature to do something though, and you have to actively make yourself do it. \u00a0That was the case for me in letting go of these people, which happened several months ago now. \u00a0I think to some degree the prospect of the change of them not being in my lives scared me… but the truth is, they already weren’t, except for super brief appearances when I would seek them out.<\/p>\n
So it’s true, after I stopped trying, they immediately degraded to Facebook acquaintances… which is to say, I occasionally see an update they post, and even more rarely they may comment on one of mine, or I on theirs, but there’s never any real communication. \u00a0And that’s OK, because things change, and people change.<\/p>\n
I don’t know if there is a takeaway for you here, I mostly just wanted to reflect on that decision for myself. \u00a0Take from it what you will.<\/p>\n
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Something that I have come to learn about myself is that I am very bad at letting go of people. \u00a0I’ve been fairly fortunate for most of my life in that I had a core group of friends that extended from middle school all the way through college… really, all the way to now for … Continue reading Letting Go<\/span>